A Real Woman

Is glad she's a woman and rejoices in her feminity, expressing it through her attitude, appearance and bearing. (1 Tim. 2:9-10)

Does not compete for equality with men or chafe at God's design for male and female, but delights in and understands the importance of her calling to complement man's role. (1 Tim. 2:11-12, Eph. 5:22-24)

Values the cultivation of her mind and diligently seeks after wisdom and knowledge. (Prov. 22:17-21, 2:2-6)

Realizes her imperative need to allow the Holy Spirit to control her emotions and expressions of them. (James 1:19-20)

Does not wallow in self-pity or make a habit of voicing complaints, but radiates cheerfulness and joy. (Prov. 15:15, 17:22)

Appreciates her father's protection, and respects and submits to his authority. In so doing, she is preparing herself to exercise the Biblical role in her relationship with a possible future husband. (Eph. 5:33-6:3, 1 Peter 3:1-2)

Is trustworthy and gains the respect of those around her. (Prov. 31:11)

Restrains herself from listening to, or participating in gossip, but instead speaks with wisdom and discretion. (Prov. 11:12-13, 22, 20:19, 3:11)

Encourages and builds up those around her instead of criticizing and tearing them down. (1 Thess. 5:11, Eph. 4:29)

Does not have a nagging, contentious or manipulative manner in which she deals with others. (Judges 16:16, Prov. 21:9,19, 26:21)

Is characterized by a gentle and quiet spirit. (Prov. 9:13, 1 Pet. 3:4)

Portrays chastity, modesty and reverence in her manner, and wears the ornament of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is her true beauty. (1 Peter 3:3-4, Tit. 2:4-5)

Is not offended by respect shown her through gentlemanly courtesies (opening doors, etc.) but cultivates the differences between the sexes that make her worthy of this deference. (1 Pet. 3:7, Mark 10:6)

Seeks to make God her number one desire and the Lover of her soul, knowing that only He can fully satisfy. (Ps. 73:25, Ps. 63:1)

Uses her years of singleness to seek and serve God without distraction, and is content to leave the details of her future to Him. (Ps. 73:25, Phil. 4:11)

Does not relate to members of the opposite sex in a flirtatious or forward manner, but instead saves all her passion for her future husband. (Thess. 4:3-8, Prov. 6:25, 1 Cor. 7:1)

Holds her virginity before marriage sacred and will not compromise it for anything. (This one goes for guys, too!) (1 Tim. 5:22)

This list was compiled by Philip Hainline, age 16, and Heidi Reimer, age 19, and her sister Marja, age 17.
Originally published in New Attitude Magazine.

taken from : www.ylcf.org/burningcandle/real-woman.htm

A Real Man

A Real Man:

understands and lives according to the basic purposes for which he was created: to worship, honor, and serve God. (Rom. 12:1-2)

values and carefully handles the scriptures. (2 Tim. 2:15)

isn't embarrassed to worship God and pray in a group setting. (Mark 8:38)

is wise, yet humble. (Prov. 2:1-10, 1 Peter 5:5 & Rom. 12:16)

takes leadership in a self-sacrificing way. (Eph. 5:25-28)

is kind because, "What is desirable in man is his kindness." (Prov. 19:22)

doesn't try to prove himself but is simply confident as he walks in the fear of the Lord. (Prov. 14:26-27)

doesn't put others down with his actions, attitude, words, or his strength. But, on the contrary, he affirms and builds others up. (Prov. 15:4 & Eph. 4:29)

not only respects but appreciates a young lady's purity and innocence. In our culture innocence isn't retained by accident. (2 Cor. 11:2-3)

values his purity as much as he values a young lady's purity. He is not ashamed to live and act differently from the world in order to guard himself. (1 Thess. 4:1-8 & Ecc. 7:26)

can look a girl straight in the eye without communicating any impurity. (Prov. 20:11)

treats his sisters and mother with as much respect as he would treat a prospective wife. (Matt. 25:21)

isn't ashamed to identify himself with his family. (Eph. 6:2-3)

shows by his actions that he loves children. (Matt. 19:13-14)

is a gentleman. He is polite and shows women honor in everyday things such as opening doors, etc. (1 Peter 3:7)

is pleasant and expresses joy rather than feeling that it's masculine to be sullen. (Prov. 21:29 7 & 1 Thess. 5:16)

is mature in his emotions and his expressions of them. He can deal with the trials of life logically, with wisdom,not on a basis of emotional instability. (Prov. 14:29, Prov. 17:27-28 & Prov. 12:18)

doesn't blame others for his own problems but embraces responsibility. (Prov. 12:27)

can accept correction. (Prov. 12:1 & Prov. 29:1)

understands the value of work and is financially responsible. (Col. 3:23-24, 2 Thess. 3:10-12 & Luke 16:10-11)

doesn't pride himself on being knowledgeable in the sinful ways of the world. (1 John 2:15-16, James 4:4 & Phil. 4:8)

expresses himself with intelligent words rather than using "street talk." (Prov. 17:20, Titus 2:6-8, 1 Peter 4:11 & Eph. 4:29)

has no desire to be gross in order to impress other men. He doesn't swear or tell disgusting stories. (Prov. 13:5 & Eph. 5:4)

This list was compiled by Lori Hainline, age 19 and her good friend, Rebecca Chandler, age 17.
Originally published in New Attitude Magazine.
taken from : www.ylcf.org/burningcandle/real-man.htm

God desires for us,,,

Everyone longs to give themselves completely to someone, to have a deep soul relationship with another, to be loved thoroughly and exclusively.

But God says to the Christian, "No, not until you are satisfied, fulfilled, and content with being loved by Me alone. Not until you have given yourself totally unreservedly to Me, until you have an intensely personal and unique relationship with Me alone. Not until you have discovered that only in Me is your satisfaction to be found.

Then will you be capable of the perfect human relationship that I have planned for you.

You will never be united with another until you are united with Me, exclusive of anyone or anything else, exclusive of any other desires or longings. I want you to stop planning, stop wishing, and allow Me to give you the most thrilling plan existing, one that you cannot imagine.

I want you to have the best. Please allow Me to bring it to you.

Just keep watching Me, expecting the greatest things. Keep experiencing the satisfaction that I Am.Keep listening & learning the things I tell you. You just wait, that's all.

Don't be anxious, don't worry. Don't look around at the things others have gotten or that I've given them. Don't look at the things you think you want.

And then, when you're ready, I'll surprise you with a love far more wonderful than any you would dream of. You see, until you are ready, and until the one I have for you is ready -- I am working even this moment to have both of you ready at the same time -- until you are both satisfied exclusively with Me and the life I prepared for you, you won't be able to experience the love that exemplifies your relationship with Me, and is thus the perfect love.

And, dear one, I want you to have this most wonderful love. I want you to see in the flesh a picture of your relationship with Me. I want you to enjoy materially and concretely the everlasting union of beauty, perfection, and love that I offer you with Myself.

Know that I love you utterly. I am EL SHADDAI (Almighty).

"Believe it and be satisfied". (Psalms 37:3-5)

taken from : www.ylcf.org/burningcandle/three.htm

Story 'bout the garden locked up,,,

As my horse trotted wearily up the road, I could see the walls of a beautiful garden ahead. Outside the gate was an equally beautiful woman. At the sound of my greeting, she turned and dropped a curtsey. "Good sir... good morning."

I looked at her, and then at the garden walls extending out to the right and left. Behind her was the garden gate.

I said, "I am very thirsty...for something clean."

She smiled, and her smile made me thirstier still. But she said nothing.

"Is there water here?" I asked.

"There is a stream within my garden." Her statement was simply a statement of fact; there was no invitation at all in it.

I asked, "May I come in and drink?"

"No," she said. "The lord of my mother's garden does not permit that."

"Why is this? Other women have let me drink from the gardens that they tend." I glanced at the fruit-laden branches, which were visible over the top of the garden wall. "You have a lovely garden, but those who let me drink had gardens just as beautiful."

She laughed at this, and her laugh was merry indeed.

"I have no doubt that you have been in some lovely gardens. But was the water clean?"

"No," I said, and in spite of myself, turned my head and looked down. She continued with a question. "Is that why you are no longer in the gardens tended by these women?"

I was ashamed so I did not answer her. Instead I looked past her into the garden. The path through the gate disappeared after a few feet, leaving the view of anyone on the road.

"It seems like a shame for such a garden to go to waste."

She seemed both puzzled and amused. "How does it go to waste?"

"Does any man drink from your stream?"

"No, but no man fouls it either."

"But is that not a waste? Was not your stream made to quench the thirst of travelers?"

"I'm afraid you are seriously mistaken. It was made to quench the thirst, not of travelers, but of the lord of the garden."

"Oh," I said, "this garden has a lord?"

"No," she said.

"Then I don't understand. Are you speaking in riddles?"

She smiled. "No, I do not. The garden will one day have a lord, although it does not yet. The stream is for him alone."

"And who will your lord be?"

"When my mother's lord gives a blessing, the one whom I appoint."

"How can the lesser appoint the greater?"

"How can it not be so? When my lord comes, I will grant to him my garden. But until I do, he is just another traveler."

"And what do you look for? I am sure there are many who knock at your gate."

At this she blushed slightly but looked straight at me. "I will not have a lord who does not have a lord himself--my lord must have taken an oath of fealty to the Landlord."

"The Landlord? Who is he?"

"He is the owner of all the gardens along this road. In order to come into my garden, my lord must take an oath before the Landlord to tend the garden well. He must also swear that he will enter no other garden."

I had never heard such words as these before. "How long must he stay out of other gardens?"

"Forever."

"But what if he is born to travel?"

"Then he is not born for my garden."

"I see," I said, becoming a little angry. "Then why have I never heard of such an oath? I have been in many gardens."

"Yes, you said that before. But was the water clean? Were the gardens tended? That is what happens when there is no oath."

"So that is all? If someone takes an oath before this Landlord, you will make them your Lord?"

"No."

"Well, what else then?"

"There are many men who think they can tend my garden well, and who would be willing to swear an oath before the Landlord saying so. But that does not mean that my mother's lord, or I, share their confidence."

"What do you mean?"

"I mean that I know the extent of the garden. I have a knowledge of it that cannot be gained from the road. But no man can share that knowledge until after I have made him my lord and husband. So I must have the measure of the man before."

"So what must a man do?"

"The first thing is to--"

"Yes, I know. He must swear to the Landlord. But after?"

"He must return to me, and ask to see my mother's lord."

"And what would he say?"

"That depends on the man." At this parting comment, she turned and walked slowly back into the garden, pulling the gate closed behind her. I spurred my horse, which began to trot down the road. I did not know what to think, but I needed to find this Landlord.

by : Douglas wilson
taken from : www.ylcf.org/burningcandle/fourteen.htm

When Dreams Come True

Shal0m!!
anny0ng...
daku m0 rek0mendasiin buku yg memberkaTi bgT niy... ni resensi nya... ^^

JuduL : When Dreams Come True
Pengarang : Eric n Leslie Ludy
PenerbiT : Gloria Graffa

Temen2 ada yang pernah bingung nda tentang pasangan hidup or kaya gimana siy batesan hidup kudus pas pacaran? N ada nda siy kisah2 cinta ky d dongeng di dunia skarang ini? Is it really just only a dream? Na… buku ni tuwh pas banget buat temen2... Buku ni tuwh kisah nyata dari para pengarang nya yaitu eric n leslie ludy.
Menceritakan masa muda mereka, dimana mereka terjebak dengan pergaulan yang mengharuskan mereka meninggalkan Yesus di belakang akibat dari tekanan lingkungan n temen2 mereka n mulai kompromi dengan batas2 yang terlalu jauh, sampai pada satu titik mereka akhir nya benar2 berjumpa dengan Yesus secara pribadi dan menyerahkan hidup mereka pada Yesus, meninggalkan kehidupan yang lama, termasuk menyerahkan kehidupan cinta mereka.
Na... disini lah mereka mulai God bawa ke satu petualangan n pengaturan God yang sempurna n indah banget dari mereka akhir nya bertemu, bersahabat, bertunangan sampe akhir nya menikah... n they atleast really say it’s God dream come true for their life not only just their dream...
Aza hwai’Ting!! (^0^)0
-GB-

Devotion

Jesus…
Your love is higher than the heaven
Your love is deeper than the ocean...
Your love is more beautiful than the rainb0w...
Your love is sweeter than honey...
Your love is more faithful than the sunrise...
Your love is brighter than the brightest light...
Your love is more than anything in this w0rld...
You prove it when You came t0 this worLd...
You prove it when You love the undeserved one...
You prove it when You choose cross for me...
You prove it when You say You love me even when i'm stiLL a
sinner...
Your love is unchangeable...
Jesus... Jesus...
it is true that You are worthy of all praise,
honour, worship, love n our life...
i Love You Lord... i Love You... thats all i can say to You...
my compleTe dev0tion...

Jalan2 malam n A Responsibility,,,

God t0day senenk bgt d td jalan2 sm anak2 cool, fellowship gt k resto ikan nila,,, sbenere ni fellowship dadakan gr2 girja nda bs dtg n tau2 anak2 ad yg laper gt jd d pd cabut k resto utk makan dg kata2 fellowship, hahahhaa, td yg kut ad vira, jo, epi, mei, ling2 jadul n eva,,, hue, senenk bgt d God td bisa ngobrol2 sm mreka, bs have fun brg, bs ktawa2, bs ceng2an n denger 'perang' vira n jo,,, hahahaha, luthu2,,, ^^
tp yg plg bikin senenk dr tuwh smua adl kbersamaan ny,,, quality time qt brg,,, hr ni aku br ngrasain lg God arti dr fellowship bukan cm snenk2, jalan brg, makan brg tp yg pentink sbenere adl kbersamaan ny,,, bs slg berbagi kasih Kristus jg disana,,, mgkn qt nda ngomongin ap2 yg serius2 n bcanda2 tp its fun bgt God ^^ ad saat2 qt share2 jg, ntah knp brasa hepi aj gt God ^^
senenk bgt jg td bisa jalan brg sm ling2, ud lama bgt nda brg ling2, ngobrol2, gt2,,, tp td bs jalan brg, ktawa2, ngobrol2, bs slg tanya kabar, slg nguatin mimpi msg2 sm eva jg,,, hummm,,, mnrt kuwh tuwh waktu2 yg bernilai bgt,,, bs slg membangun,,, hepi,,, thx y God... ^^
n td jg dberkati scr jasmani sm vira,,, wuahh,,, tepat pd waktu ny,,, ni makanan penguat utk melewati puasa besok jg,,, xixixixi ^^
thx y God utk this family in Christ,,, i love them so much,,, bless them Lord n keep them in ur heart i pray,,, ^^
n God hr ni aku juga diingetin sm God skali lg ttg responsibility lewat papa mama,,, tanggung jawab yg bukan cm pas d greja or pas aku lg lakuin sesuatu yg excited bgt tp jg tanggung jawab n passion yg sm utk hal2 yg jujur nya aku krg excited sperti my job,,, God Engkau ajari aku lg utk komit sm ap yg aku kerjakan harus aku kerjakan sperti utk God n bukan utk manusia dlm hal apapun yg God pcayain utk aku kerjain,,, ntah hal yg aku suka n excited bgt tp jg utk hal2 yg aku krg suka n not really excited for me,,, God ajar aku utk tetap bertanggung jawab di smua hal yg God pcayain dg passion yg sama, dg yg d bez,,, God ajar kl tuwh tmasuk integritas n bayar harga,,,
God aku tau Engkau sedang memproses aku d kerjaan jg,,, my job jg tmasuk tempat psiapan utk panggilan yg Engkau kasih buat aku, ni jg adl batu loncatan utk aku masuk panggilan aku,,, ajar aku setia y God dlm hal appun yg Engkau pcayain kecil or besar, yg aku suka or aku nda suka,,, aku tau tiap hal dlm idup aku ni smua utk kbaean aku,,, God biarpun susa utk aku excited n passion sm job aku tp aku mau blajar utk suka y God,,, aku mau blajar utk give d bez dlm appun yg aku kerjain,,, sperti utk God n bukan manusia,,, aku mau krn aku mengasihi God,,, help me Lord to love everything You gave for me,,, aku mau memberi yg tbae,,, b with me Lord n mampukan aku y God dg anugrah Mu yg pasti cukup buat ku,,, ud saat nya skrg utk aku bsedia dbenahi God utk area ni,,, bsedia utk menjadi garam n terang di tiap aspek kehidupan ku,,, aku mau bayar harga nya,,,
sumangat,,, ^^
Love You Lord,,,